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It is hard for anyone to understand how difficult my life was during 2005.
My wife left me for no given reason after 11 (what I thought were happy) years together and moved in 3 doors
down in a little row of terraced houses less than 20 paces away.
Together with her new partner they stopped me from seeing my children 9 and 2 years for over 4 months and
laughed as they did it.
It took a court order to reinstate that contact but the damage of that 4 months can never be repaired.
Her partner used to enjoy parading my children past my front door in broad daylight
and any attempts to talk to them were met with threats from her solicitors.
I saw my son in the park and when I approached him he ran off crying saying, "sorry dad, mummy says I am not
allowed to speak to you"
On a weekly basis my eldest son comes to me briefed in what he is told to say:
- We have been told to call him "daddy," the children have known him as S for the last 3 years,
why should it be different.
- My 3 year old says "my mummy said that I have 2 daddies now," Why is there a need to confuse the
mind of a 3 year old.
- Mummy and daddy say that the new settee cost them £1000 and they only have £10,000 left which they are saving
up to get married.
- I bought my younger son some new trainers cheap from the local supermarket, he wanted to wear them home. My
eldest told me that mummy says that they have to stay outside as we don't want daddy's germs in the house.
- Mummy says that anything that you send home will be put in the bin
- I bought my eldest son a mobile phone to call me when he felt sad or missed me, she flatly refuses to let him take it
home with him, but she is more than willing to accept calls from him when he is at my home.
- They are not allowed to take home toys, sweets or pocket money even if it comes from their grandmother
on my side of the family
- Every weekend my eldest son tells me that mummy and S are going to a hotel for the weekend, (why they
feel there is a need to tell me is beyond belief.
- my wife refuses to communicate with me on any level, the only offer so far at the time of writing is by text, yet I cannot
reply due to a police warning.
- The damage that this is doing to my eldest son is unbelievable, I found a notebook that he had written in
with the words KILL all over the pages then scribbled over, trying to erase the words but they are clearly visible.
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The story doesn't end there...
She emptied the bank accounts of all money and has left me in severe debt.
Ordinarily I could have handled all that, but she continues her attacks on a weekly basis, laughing all
the time at what she is doing.
The grief my wife causes me weekly, whether it is done out of spite or just for fun, only she and her
partner will know.
Every lie she told last year was proved wrong, modern technology is a wonderful thing, what she doesn't
realise is that she cannot hurt me anymore.
I have moved on and moved up, Communication is the key word, a telephone call or a letter
would have stopped the animosity instantly, but she never wanted that
names have been changed for privacy and security reasons.
if you are unsure as to whether we can help you please phone John on 01329 319084 between 5.30 and 9.30 in the evening any
day of the week and I will be glad to assist you.
if you consider your situation is urgent you may call me any time during the day on 07800 577823
Name Change....
When we started the group it was out of frustration caused by an unjust system. However, as we have progressed, we have come
to realise that there is more urgent need for support to all those already affected by the family courts system, than a campaign
for change.
the word "campaign" suggests that we only have one aim, so with immediate effect we have changed the name to "care". it does
not deter us from our original intentions, merely putting it into perspective regarding our priorities.
There is a need for a change across the entire system...
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