Kelly’s
Story
Kelly walked out on her partner Steven
just over a year ago leaving him with the 2 children a girl of ten years old and a boy nine years old. Steven had no money was in serious arrears with the rent and had thousands of pounds in debt, without a
job or indeed any prospects of getting one.
Based
on just those three lines of knowledge you could quite easily condemn this woman as probably one of the most evil, heartless
bitches this world has known. These are the facts as presented by him and
he has the world agonising over his dilemma and women are softened by the plight of this poor wreck of a man wondering how
he is going to feed the children.
Now let’s roll the story back,
just a few years.
Kelly met Steven fourteen years ago at
a time when they were living in Bradford,
Yorkshire. At that time she had a four year old daughter
Emily. Despite the fact that he had five children already with two previous partners
and claims he has further children that remain undisclosed, which he just laughs off, they became an item and within months
set up home together. Although life hasn’t been kind to them, there was
no major head turning events that would be beneficial to this story, consequently best read as everything was ok although
his temper and jealousy often got the better of him and he would lash out at anyone that got in his way, first came Charlotte,
then within a year Steven junior, to them that was the family complete. Work
was sparse in their part of the world so in 2000 they made the move south,
The five years leading up to Kelly leaving
him were uneventful although he did make her life hell if she dared speak to anyone at the school or the local supermarket
where she worked, but she had been with him long enough, he had his faults and she had hers, but she quite happily accepted
the way he was.
In June 2004 Kelly found out she was pregnant,
although this wasn’t a major problem to the baby making machine, Kelly found it hard to accept, after all she was thirty
eight and had all the family she wanted, her Eldest daughter Emily had by now given her a grandson and it didn’t suit
the situation, being a grandmother was a better option. They discussed the choices
that were available to them and took into consideration the physical, emotional and financial side to having a baby at this
time and the agreed outcome was to have a termination.
I wouldn’t like to be the woman that
has to make the decision for the abortion, the man doesn’t have a say, he may be granted an opinion and have an interest
but the final decision is by the woman and it is hers alone. Strange how the
man always pretends to be the one to suffer, the emotional breakdown is always his.
Men do not suffer the traumatic experience of abortion, it is just a front to either let the woman know he cares about
her and he is not totally emotionless to her condition or to make it easier to blame her for the decision, nothing else. Of course there are mitigating circumstances to that statement but only where conditions
prevail.
The date was set, Kelly had the abortion,
but it went horribly wrong with a capital W…
During the routine operation an incident
occurred, which caused a tear in the lining of the womb, which then caused infection and finally resulted in her having a
full hysterectomy. That blow was phenomenal; there is a distinct difference between
not wanting to and not being able to have any more children.
Okay so she didn’t want this one,
but as with all people their views and circumstances change and who knows what a couple of years down the line may have brought. Steven was devastated and at one point thought that Kelly was going to die, he remained
at her side throughout the ordeal.
How long does it take to recover from an
operation like this on a physical level, days, weeks, months? Then what about
emotionally, days, weeks, months? It could possibly be years.
This is where Kelly’s life took a
turn for the worse.
Within weeks, Kelly had returned
to as near normal as she was going to get with the way that life had treated her. Steven
would cuddle up at night but he always wanted to go that bit further all the time, this wasn’t a direction that she
could take, frightened of the pain, she knew that returning to a normal sex life would take a lot longer than four weeks,
after all a major operation like this wasn’t something that you could switch on and off to suit the moment. There was no discussion with it and like the man he is, he just took it…badly…
He would start wandering around the house
sulking like a teenager because he hadn’t got lucky the night before, his attitude changed towards Kelly, little remarks
about her being frigid and cold, he started accusing her of seeing other men, he was determined to make her suffer for what
he wasn’t getting, in a nutshell he was more feeling sorry for himself than for her.
Even the neighbours had noticed the
change in him, he started strutting around like the proverbial peacock so sure that he was every woman's dream, he would come
home from work, go upstairs have a shower and come down with a towel wrapped round his waist, get a beer from the fridge and
stand there in the open doorway of his terraced house with a grin on his face, possibly expecting every woman that walked
by to fall on their knees to this god. His determination for sex was so great
he would go to any lengths to get it. Pathetic was an understatement but it gave
their neighbourhood a good laugh.
Kelly had only one real friend in the row
of terraces Betty, a single mum with a daughter who worked hard for a living to pay the mortgage. It was at this time that Steven started making his moves on Betty; always there with a bottle of wine ready
to pounce whenever she walked in, regardless of the direction the conversation was taking, there were always those subtle
sexual undertones coming from Stevens corner, Kelly would sit their cringing with embarrassment. Of course who it angered
the most is not certain, but one instance saw Betty getting to a boiling point where she made the statement that she just
didn’t like men and that was it for Steven. At this point he realised that
he wouldn’t be getting any further with this woman, which left him reeling with anger, all this time wasted on a woman
that just wasn’t and probably never was interested in him. There was only
one explanation for it, this woman was obviously a lesbian and within days Betty was tarnished, however despite Stevens’s
ramblings, all the street knew there was nothing in that statement but he had to get his own back somehow. The further embarrassment that this caused Kelly was more than she could bear, the cosy chats with her
only friend had come to an end, Steven had seen to that. What was this man going
to do next?
The sexual advances towards Kelly continued
and became more frequent, the more she was pressured the more she withdrew into herself, staying up late hoping that he would
be asleep before she went to bed. Getting up before he awoke in the morning, trying not to be cornered as she felt frightened
by his actions. As in the early part of their relationship he had shown a vicious
streak and although that was many years ago the same idiosyncrasy was starting to rear its ugly head again.
It had been two months since the operation
and it was suggested that she should seek the advice of a solicitor regarding negligence
against the NHS, this put a nice little sparkle back into Steven’s life, here it was, money, a few thousand whatever,
his thoughts turned to what they could do with that. At this stage there was
no set figure to work to, but it didn’t matter to Steven he had already started spending it in his mind, the thought
of sex with Kelly had taken a back seat for the time being, he had to keep on the right side of her as this was rightfully
all her money, the wrong moves at this stage would see him penniless, it looked as this year was going to end on a good note
at long last.
They became the perfect couple, although
he did have his eye on another neighbour, a twenty seven year old from down the road, he knew she was into older men as her
husband was fifty plus, Kelly would often remark how cosy they always looked together and he would say that he wasn’t
interested in her, she wasn’t his type, there was always something lurking in the back of his mind though, there were
thoughts towards this woman, he was always down there crying on her shoulder because he though that Kelly was having an affair,
she didn’t want him, so there had to be someone else. She worked in the restaurant of the local supermarket and was
always home within the allotted time after leaving work, apart from the physical and emotional problems in her life, an affair
was the last thing on her mind and even then she wouldn’t have had time. But that was him, always blaming her for working
Sundays leaving him to do the housework, all the cooking, the only day of the week that he got off and she had to work, he
forgot that it was his idea in the first place as they pay extra for Sundays.
He worked for a local courier firm but
his chances of remaining in their employment was slowly going down the pan, the company had just been taken over and the new
bosses were slightly more concerned for the stock that had gone missing over a period of time. As is the right of most companies they were going to conduct a house search of all their employees, guilt
took hold and panic set in fast, he had already rented a garage off the neighbour and was slowly filling it up, eventually
he couldn’t take any more pressure and resigned that job, which then pushed the relationship to new boundaries, Kelly was then left as the sole wage earner of the house and that was only part time,
but it didn’t matter to him because they were going to get this fantastic payoff so all their problems would be sorted.
There was a slight hiccup where the NHS
refused to accept liability saying they had the consent form signed, this bothered him slightly as he had already far exceeded
his spending limit for the amount of cash they actually had, the rent had started to go seriously into arrears, but help was
on hand as another firm of solicitors took the case on with their no win no fee basis, saying
even a consent form does not exclude them from liability they could expect to get anything between fourteen and twenty thousand.
So the case continued, this lifted his spirits once again, this time to new heights and he was expecting the payoff to be
before Christmas, however he was still spending it faster than the solicitors were moving,
in November he started doing agency work as a relief postman, the money was coming back in but going out again even faster,
the children had a mass of presents probably the best they had ever had, but this is where it came to the end, the bills had
continued to mount, Steven had spent well beyond his means and just ignored the everyday household bills including the rent.
The payoff wasn’t anywhere near being
finalised.
In January 2005 Steven arrived home from
work during the day and asked Kelly if she had heard from the solicitors to which she said
no, he then told her to phone them and find out where the case was going, she casually replied that she would do it after
lunch, on that he threw the mobile phone at her catching her square in the mouth, telling her to do it now.
She couldn’t get through on that
and then he said to her “I don’t know why you just don’t f*** off; I don’t love you, the kids don’t
like you and every time you are near me you make my skin crawl”. On that
she left in tears.
It took her a few weeks to get herself
together, the pain in her mouth from the mobile phone had gone, but the pain of those words, well that sort of pain inflates,
there is no such thing as the heat of the moment, if it is said then that is whats thought. She went back to the house and
knocked on the door even though she had a key, he opened the door, he looked at her and asked her what she wanted, and she
said “I’ve come home”. On that he took the key from her and
told her he didn’t want her back and neither did the kids, leaving her empty and gutted. He handed her two bin liners with all her clothes then closed the door.
But why would he want her back? She had nothing to offer him and besides
he had already moved on with his neighbour, their affair was well under way.
Those four lines in the beginning told
it all, sadly it takes a lot more lines to tell the truth, we are so quick to judge and so slow to say sorry. It would be nice if Kelly’s story was to end there, but like all others it hasn’t, to this
day it is still going and at present there doesn’t look to be an end.
Kelly went on to become homeless, she started
off living in a single room with just a TV for company, if she wanted a cigarette she would have to go downstairs to the garden,
irrespective of the weather. She would often go round to try and visit her children, but he would ensure that the children
told her nothing of what was going on, he would stand like a prison warder watching their every move, and questions asked
by Kelly would have to wait while the children looked at dad to see if they could answer.
Many times she would arrive there only to be physically thrown out within minutes, or she would arrange a time and
Steven would phone her five minutes before and cancel.
At one point Kelly’s Mother and Father
flew in from Spain, she was excited and asked Steven if grandma could take the children out for the day, they were allowed
one hour at his house out of the entire week they were there and once again under
the watchful eye of Steven.
Steven and their two children are now living
with his neighbour and her two children in rented accommodation, she has left her husband and follows the same path as Steven,
and their similarities are frightening. We often hear of parents poisoning the
minds of the children and with Kelly it is no exception, the children now call the neighbour mum, and her children have to
call him dad, can you imagine how bad this makes the respective partners feel? You probably can…
Of course this is Kelly’s story,
Stevens story was totally different and most believed him, because we don’t question peoples actions, we act on what
we see, but as the year has gone on people have found out the truth behind Steven, all that is, except his partner the neighbour,
but then again if you read the claims that she made in court against her husband you would know that their new found relationship
is built on one incredibly big lie, as to what she has told him and he has told her.
Kelly will have the last laugh. All she
has to do now is wait…
The names have been changed the story is
exactly as it happened
